Against the Odds
Kathy and I are celebrating our 35th Wedding Anniversary – February 18, 2012
Everyone has heard the term “The odds are against you…” or “Against all Odds…” of “Beating the Odds”. The term “Odds” is a betting term. It means “The likelihood of the outcome occurring, stated in numbers form.”
So I have been looking at the odds of a marriage surviving 35 years. Here are some of the odds…
“Don’t stock up on silver anniversary cards. More than half the Americans who might have celebrated their 25th wedding anniversaries since 2000 were either divorced, separated or widowed, according to a census survey released today.” (September 19, 2007 by New York Times writer Sam Roberts)
“43% of first marriages end within 15 years.” This is according to “For Richer or Poorer”, Illustration By Sarah Wilkins, in January/February 2005 issue of Mother Jones.
Census Bureau: Number, Timing, and Duration of Marriages and Divorces: 2001 (Issued February 2005) reports that: “Roughly 1 in 5 adults has ever divorced; First marriages that end in divorce last about 8 years, on average.”
“Couples watching out for the seven-year itch should be on their guard a lot earlier these days. According to research, they are far more likely to separate after about two years of marriage. One in 12 couples is heading for the divorce courts after 24 months – more than double the figure for seven years.” From “TWO-YEAR ITCH INFECTS MARRIAGE” News Australia, By James Mills, June 22, 2004 Cited in a posting in the Smart Marriages listserv June 22, 2004. News Australia, By James Mills, June 22, 2004.
“But wait… I am a Christian. That makes all the difference in the world… Doesn’t it?”
The Barna Group reports… “Among all born again Christians, which includes evangelicals, the divorce figure is 32 percent, which is statistically identical to the 33 percent figure among non-born again adults.”
So how did Kathy and I beat the “Odds”? How has our marriage survived 35 years? Was it because we were given super human abilities? Was it because we loved each other more than most couples? Was it because our life was filled with nothing but marital bliss?
I believe it was because of one word – COMMITMENT! 35 years ago this weekend, Kathy and I stood before a preacher (my dad) and God, and made a “commitment”. We pledged to stay with each other…
“For better… for worse”
“For richer… for poorer”
“In sickness and in health”
“Forsaking all others… keep only to each other”
“’TILL DEATH DO US PART!!!”
I love my wife for all the good times we have shared, but I love her more for staying with me through the tough times. We have laughed together and we have cried together, but most of all WE HAVE STAYED TOGETHER!!!



